I stared at the phone in my hand.
Did I hear that right?
"Excuse me, did you say, 'yogurt?' You can't come to your brother's memorial service because you have YOGURT?"
"Yeah, I did. You know how some people have animals? And some people have plants? Well, I have yogurt.
"And I can't leave it unattended. It's a starter culture."
This was either the lamest or the very BEST excuse I'd ever heard.
I was glad that Keith, the guy on the other end of the phone, couldn't see my expression.
I had called to invite him to his only sibling's memorial service.
But he wasn't coming. Apparently, he couldn't leave his yogurt.
Money wasn't the issue. I already told him I'd take care of his airfare and hotel.
The truth is, Keith had never really liked his brother.
They hadn't gotten along since they were teenagers.
Knowing all that, I still wanted them to reconcile.
Even though one had died.
I wanted Keith to think fondly of his deceased brother. To have some...
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The chestnut horse stood before me, her long mane gracing her arched neck.
I watched as the veterinarian and the horse’s person looked at a radiograph of the mare’s left front lower leg, which showed a clearly defined suspensory ligament.
The vet explained to the woman that the horse would not be able to recover from her suspensory ligament injury and would be permanently lame.
The woman was distraught by the news.
Confidently, I strode forward and announced that I could help the horse return to full soundness. I did my signature Debono Moves* work with the horse for five minutes and, magically, the horse healed.
Magically, indeed! Rubbing the sleep from my eyes, I recounted my dream.
I laughed at the arrogance of my dream self, but I didn’t dismiss the dream. It felt important. And there had to be a reason why the suspensory ligament was shown in such detail. I wondered what it all meant.
And just who WAS that beautiful horse?...
Want to know how the Airedale recovered so quickly from carpal arthritis?
Curious how a yellow Lab returned to soundness after a devastating knee ligament injury?
Wondering how a 70-pound dog with debilitating spinal arthritis started running and playing again?
They all had one thing in common.
I didn’t focus on their problems.
I left the problems to the veterinarians and other medical personnel.
Instead, I helped these dogs find new possibilities for easier movement.
They learned to use their bodies in new, more comfortable ways.
And they developed better body awareness and coordination.
And guess what happened…
The dogs’ problems went away!
When faced with a doggie dilemma, people often get stuck in a problem state.
They’re so focused on the problem that it obscures their ability to see anything else.
Maybe you’ve done it too.
It’s perfectly understandable.
But focusing too...
“I wish I had more confidence when I ride.”
I hear that over and over.
Riders constantly wish they had more confidence in the saddle.
As if confidence were a trait that some people were born with, like green eyes.
Or something you could order on Amazon.
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Well, I have good news.
You don’t need confidence to ride well.
You need to feel resourceful.
Feeling resourceful means that you have the *skills* to handle whatever challenges come up.
And those are skills you can learn.
So, let’s stop wishing for confidence.
Instead, focus on developing the movement and mindset skills to help you feel RESOURCEFUL with your horse.
When you have a balanced, secure seat on your horse, your feelings of safety will increase.
And you’ll be more likely to stay with your horse if he...
Resting heart rate: 53. This healthy metric is due, in large part, to my personal trainer. But why did I, a female in my 50’s, hire a buff, 22-year-old dude to help me reach my fitness goals?
Well, there are the obvious reasons. For one, he’s easy on the eyes. As we run shoulder-to-shoulder, I can’t help but sneak the occasional glance at his muscular physique. If he notices, he never says anything.
Besides the superficial reasons, there are other benefits to working out with my guy, who I’ll call “BD,” since I didn’t get his written permission to include his name here.
First off, I don’t enjoy going to a gym. Never have. But put me out in nature, and I’m in heaven. BD is more than happy to exercise in the fresh air. That’s a big plus. We meet three miles from my home and we run and hike through the local hills and trails. Living in Southern California, the weather is...
The chestnut horse’s life changed so drastically, so wonderfully, that having the ability to pick up both leads easily is hardly worth mentioning.
Except that the story starts with a problem at the canter. And an upcoming horse show. A big one.
I was teaching a two-week Debono Moves equine workshop at a large, picturesque facility. Green lawns studded with shady pepper trees surrounded the large barns, and riders had access to trainers of various riding disciplines.
Horses enjoyed the ample turnout paddocks and many happily lived outside year-round. All in all, it seemed like a lovely place to be a horse.
Except if you happened to be a horse in Barn A, Section 2.
That part of the barn was leased by a trainer who kept his charges locked up in dark stalls, the windows clamped shut to keep out light and to prevent the horses from experiencing the outside world. The equines were always outfitted with blankets and tail sets, and sometimes wore...
Help me! Help me!
The man called out as he came lurching down the path, a rifle clutched against his chest.
I was hand walking my leopard Appaloosa, Spotzy, with a friend when we noticed the armed man coming towards us.
Quickly realizing that the man’s “rifle” was a realistic-looking pellet gun, we ran to help him.
The man had been bitten on his right hand by a large rattlesnake.
With the snake’s venom racing through his body, the man, who I’ll call John, told us that his lips had already turned numb.
And now he felt the numbness spreading. John was really scared.
And he started to freak out.
I knew that the quieter John was, the better his chances of recovering from the rattlesnake bite.
Since I seemed more adept at calming down the panicked man, my non-horsey friend ran back to the ranch to call 911.
(Yes, this happened years ago - before we all carried phones with us!)
Don’t forget, I had my horse...
Have you ever wondered if your horse is happy in his work?
Does responding to your cues make your horse feel good? Or is he simply conditioned to respond to your aids?
In other words, what’s your horse’s motivation for working with you?
Many equestrians never ask these questions. And that makes me wonder if they’ve ever questioned how they motivate themselves.
But you’re different.
You know that asking the right questions can transform your riding.
And your life.
And ensure that your horse has a happy life too.
So, let’s ask a few helpful questions.
Imagine that your garage is a mess. It’s completely disorganized. There are piles of dusty stuff EVERYWHERE.
There are things in there that you haven’t look at in YEARS.
You know you’d feel better if you swept and organized it, but it seems like So. Much. Work.
How do you convince yourself to clean out your garage?
Go grab two polo wraps, standing bandages or even a couple of hand towels out of your linen closet.
Then lie down on the floor and join Mary in a short, super effective exercise to activate your deep core muscles.
You'll learn how to both relax your back AND get stronger and more coordinated all at the same time!
As always, do only what's easy, comfortable and safe for you to do. Less is more!
If you'd like to improve even further, go grab Mary's FREE rider masterclass. You'll learn how to have a more balanced, independent seat - effortlessly. Don't delay. Your horse is waiting for you!